Worth. Meaning. Significance. Value.
Those are heavy words that can cause heavy feelings. It’s something most of us struggle with. I know I have. I spent most of my teenage and early adult years constantly wondering what I was worth, longing for value in others’ eyes, worrying if I was good enough and if I was doing everything “right”. And now I’m a mom of 3 and approaching my thirties, and I’m living in the age of the “mommy wars” and “mom-shaming”. We see this every single day on social media and even in our friend circles. It’s constant, and if you let it start to define you, you’ll drown from the weight of it. So today I just want to make a few things clear.
Your worth is not in your kids’ healthy and hand crafted lunches or their store bought lunchables.
Your worth is not in your clean house or in your dust covered mantle.
Your worth is not in your meal prep skills or your fast food pick up skills.
Your worth is not in your perfectly designed or perfectly destroyed-by-kids living room.
Your worth is not in your instagram feed.
Your worth is not in your group of friends or followers.
Your worth is not in how long you breastfed or if you formula fed from day one.
Your worth is not in your natural childbirth or in your scheduled c-section.
Your worth is not in your pinterest inspired outfits or the yoga pants you pulled out of the dirty laundry basket.
Your worth is not in when your baby slept through the night (or didn’t).
Your worth is not in the parties you host or get invited to, or the ones where you didn’t make the guest list.
Your worth is not in the amount of kids you have or don’t have.
Your worth is not in how long you’ve been married, or how many times you have been married. Or if you are single.
Your worth is not in your kids’ outfits, smocked or thrift store.
Your worth is not in how many times you did or didn’t hit the gym this week.
Your worth is not in that number on the scale or on the tag of your jeans.
Your worth is not what others say about you.
Your worth is not even in what you say about yourself (we all know we can be our very own worst critic).
Girl, you are worth so much more than you give yourself credit for. And if you are struggling with defining yourself on all of the things you do, or as is the case with a lot of women, on all of the things you DON’T do…stop!
What you do is not who you are.
What you don’t do is not who you are.
Your worth and value has been set by Someone way bigger than you or anyone else.
Worth can be defined as the amount you would pay for something, right?
So do you know what God has paid for you?
And I’m not making this up. You’ve heard it a hundred times…”For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son…” right? This should feel especially relevant as we are coming out of Easter weekend, where we are celebrating exactly what Jesus did for us. He’s alive so you can be alive in Him. God has made you worthy.
Please let that really soak in today. And stop finding your worth and identity in things that don’t last and things that aren’t true…things that will never truly fill you up. He has defined your worth and made you right. You don’t have to try to measure up. He loves you SO much and believes you are worth the biggest price imaginable.
If you are having a hard time with believing and knowing your worth, or if you have any questions about what this all means, we would love to talk to you about it. You can email anytime us at firstname.lastname@example.org.